yes, I'm looking for a dominant, practicing somali wife

No, It's not a joke.

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I’m a 26-year-old Somali man, a practicing Muslim, and fortunate enough to have many appealing qualities. Unfortunately, I also have a strong desire to experience the femdom dynamic in the bedroom, which has made my search for a sexually and religiously compatible partner…… quite difficult.

I get it, I am discussing intimacy, it's a red flag, you're ready to judge. Just give it 3 mins before you decide

The Dilemma

None of us are in full control of what we find desirable, and the boundaries of what is acceptable is not defined by social norms but by what acts are actually classified as halal or haram.

I have these desires, and I believe expressing them within marriage is halal. However, I have a bit of a problem which I'd like to illustrate with the following diagram:

It's not just that there's a very small number of people who fulfill this criteria, but it's incredibly difficult to filter for this criteria without risking the total destruction of your personal reputation. No matter how dignified, respectful and discreet you are in bringing this up with a potential partner, your reputation WILL suffer collateral damage because unfortunately….girls talk and there's nothing more scandalous than people of faith who happen to have "weird" kinks.

A few weeks ago, I created a Reddit account and made a post describing this conundrum and was met with varying advice, the most common one being drop the criteria for sexual compatibility, optimise for deen and have trust in Allah. Although I understand the reasoning, and will probably end up doing that, I would like to first give it my best shot in finding an ideal partner before I give up and accept my qadr.

Hence this website where I hope my ideal partner can find me, rather than me turning sherlock on every potential.

Personal Ad Below but there's an FAQ section at the bottom that should answer 90% of your questions….

aBOUT ME

Alright, I'd like to now address you, potential partner! I am an educated, driven, compassionate and mild-mannered individual. I’m currently based in the UK, working in the tech industry, and I deeply care about living a meaningful life and impacting more than just my family & friends. Here's a brief overview:

Looks

I'm 6ft, with an average build. I play regular football but unfortunately no six pack :) Objectively, I wouldn't call myself exceptional looking but also not ugly. I look alright, I am comfortable, I get propositions.

Looks

EDUCATION

I was privileged to receive a lot of extra academic attention from a very early age. I attended a top 10 global university which opened a lot of opportunities.

EDUCATION

I was privileged to receive a lot of extra academic attention from a very early age. I attended a top 10 global university which opened a lot of opportunities.

FAMILY

I am the eldest son from a family with very strong links to the masjid and community service. I have a great relationship with my parents and take an active role in the life of my siblings

FAMILY

I am the eldest son from a family with very strong links to the masjid and community service. I have a great relationship with my parents and take an active role in the life of my siblings

Faith

Maintaining the daily practices of our faith is hard. It really is. But after a multi-year internal struggle, I am fortunate to say that I am closer to the other side of that journey. I pray at the masjid when I can and dedicate a bit of time in improving my knowledge. Last year I was asked to join the mosque committee, I guess that's a testimonial of sorts!

Faith

Vices

I don't drink. I don't smoke. I don't vape. I don't do drugs. I haven't committed zina and I have 0 close female friends. I am all about minimising opportunities through the friends I keep and the activities I engage in but I still live life!

Vices

Personality

I guess I am more of a reserved personality but I have no difficulty asserting myself. I find it easy to connect with people and particularly enjoy interacting with folks who are passionate about what they do

Personality

Interests

I really enjoy urban hiking with a good podcast and I am a voracious reader. It's usually either current affairs or historical fiction. I enjoy building small technical equipment but unfortunately haven't had as much time recently

Interests

Kinks

I prefer not to go into much detail at this stage but safe to say, with my wife, I imagine I would have a very submissive disposition. This does not mean I can't take a leading role but there's certainly great pleasure in loving service.

Kinks

WHO I AM LOOKING FOR

I am looking for a kind, loving partner to whom I can dedicate a significant portion of my life. I hope to find someone who can be a source of mutual support and comfort who will also allow me the privilege of serving her, nurturing our relationship, and growing together. I greatly value open communication, shared values, and a deep emotional connection.

I am not too concerned about age and would be open to someone in their early 30s. Additionally, I am open to relocation, provided it makes sense.

However, aside from mutual attraction, a deep interest in the femdom dynamic, and strong adherence to the Islamic faith, I have three key red lines:

Unfortunately, I am not open to previously married women with or without kids. Equally, not open to someone who is opposed to kids.

Divorced / Kids

Or those who want to be childless

Life is challenging but if you have a deeply strained family life or come from a home of poor reputation, that is a challenge I do not feel ready to take on.

Wayward Family

Or challenging family relationships

I am not open to someone who is inactive. Someone who doesn't work, volunteer, pursue something or contribute in any way. I want to grow with someone not grow on my own.

Inactive Life

Otherwise known as Lazy

Unfortunately, I am not open to previously married women with or without kids. Equally, not open to someone who is opposed to kids.

DIvorced / Kids

Or those who want to be childless

Unfortunately, I am not open to previously married women with or without kids. Equally, not open to someone who is opposed to kids.

DIvorced / Kids

Or those who want to be childless

Life is challenging but if you have a deeply strained family life or come from a home of poor reputation, that is a challenge I do not feel ready to take on.

Wayward Family

Or challenging family relationships

Life is challenging but if you have a deeply strained family life or come from a home of poor reputation, that is a challenge I do not feel ready to take on.

Wayward Family

Or challenging family relationships

I am not open to someone who is inactive. Someone who doesn't work, volunteer, pursue something or contribute in any way. I want to grow with someone not grow on my own.

Inactive life

Otherwise known as Lazy

I am not open to someone who is inactive. Someone who doesn't work, volunteer, pursue something or contribute in any way. I want to grow with someone not grow on my own.

Inactive life

Otherwise known as Lazy

CONTACT

If the above floats your boat, please get in touch! You can contact me via the links below. Let's both commit to honesty and privacy.

Much like applying for intelligence services, it's best to keep our communication discreet, especially if we end up getting married! Would not be ideal if others knew how we met!

hi@dominantsomaliwifewanted.com

X.com

@halalsomalisub

faq

Have you committed zina?

How did you develop these desires then?

How'd you develop these desires?

How do you know you will not be satisfied by traditional intimacy?

Traditional Intimacy not enough?

This is unislamic. You are corrupted.

Have you considered suppressing / ignoring

Weirdo.